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Agitated-Fly-8653
Want to get my friends out. Any advice?
Hi, I left Shincheonji 2 weeks ago after 3 years. It’s been rough but thankfully I’m able to start therapy to help with the trauma. I know I’ll be okay in the end, but my friends who are still in the cult are always on my mind. They’ve been there longer than me, and I know they are struggling so much mentally. I blocked them because they kept calling me after I left and deleted Telegram. I’m thinking about eventually reaching out to them because I can’t stand the thought of them stuck in there. I just don’t know how to go about it. Has anyone ever done this successfully or have any advice? Thank you guys ❤️
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theman3099
My girlfriend was in there. When I started getting suspicious that she was in a cult and found out about SCJ, she got really angry at me for bringing it up and threatened to cut me out of her life. She changed, became a shell of her former self. When she confessed and told me she was having second thoughts about the organization, I helped her out. I was there for her. I don’t know if you can really do anything to change their mind, but if you’re there for them in case they want to leave, it’ll make that process a lot easier for them.
RoleNo1887
Your words give hope. I’m in a similar situation, hoping my partner will also wake up. Now, I feel completely drained both physically and mentally. To avoid angering him, I’ve never directly called SCJ a cult. Instead, I calmly ask questions and try to guide his thinking, but it seems to have little impact till now.
I don’t know if having a heated argument with him is necessary? Have you ever had intense arguments with your girlfriend?
theman3099
It was one argument. The argument I had when I was suspicious that she was with SCJ… when she tried to cut me out of her life. Every time I expressed concern over the work they were making her do, she’d tell me they weren’t forcing her and that she was doing it because she “loved God”… it’s bad, and I really hope your partner can get out. I’ll pray for you.
Proverbs-3-5
Cults are not family, and the friends were fabricated to begin with. Focus on creating a real family for yourself the way God intends and make a real life for yourself with real emotional fulfillment and the Spirit.
UmmThatsWhatiThought
I’m still attending. Why do you get the courage to go? I have been going for a year now, and I’m thinking that I should go.
Big-Donut1709
Thanks for sharing your story. I can empathize with what you’re going through. Leaving SCJ and dealing with the aftermath is incredibly challenging, and it’s natural to worry about your friends who are still inside.
Reaching out to them can be challenging since they might view you as a threat. However, if you still decide to make contact, it could be helpful to approach the situation gently and with care. You might consider sending a simple, non-confrontational message, letting them know you’re thinking about them and are available if they ever want to talk. Also, keep in mind that anything you say may be reported to higher-ups. It’s important to respect their boundaries and be prepared for any response—or possibly no response at all.
Fit-Housing9499
Dude, I tried to do the same thing you tried, believe me, it was in vain. After Revelation 7, which for me was an extremely important and very significant change, for my old brothers and friends, it was nothing. Even after sending them texts and documents proving it, they went to complain to GJN, and then he wrote to me threatening to completely cut off contact if I didn’t stop. For them, I am still in the evaluation phase, and for them, “I have to repent.” I have a year to do so. After a year has passed, and I continue with the current decision, then I will be considered expelled.
Yes, although I have minimal contact, only with a few, after many years there, we maintain contact from time to time. When this time passes, it will be announced throughout the church that I will “become persona non grata” or, to put it better, I will be officially expelled, and no one will be allowed to have contact with me.
And as it has already been written here, there is no point in telling them anything or trying to show them the truth. They will have to find out and see for themselves. As it happened to me and you, it will have to be the same with them.
To my sadness, most of my former brothers today believe more in the words of a crazy man through the JSS texts he writes than in the Bible itself. It’s no use; for them, we are fallen, we have lost our name in the book of life, and we are condemned to hell. For SCJ, the whole world belongs to Satan; only SCJ is the place of salvation. And as SCJ has always taught us, we have fallen from grace; that is why 7 demons live within us.
Now tell me, do you think you have 7 demons within you? Only from there can we see the madness of a madman who considers himself chosen by Jesus. A madman who has spent his entire life in sects and learned this “revealed word” as he says, from men used by the spirit of Satan. Do not be afraid; you are free from the clutches of a madman. Pray for the lives of those left behind so that one day they may see the truth too. I know that it is a process for each person, but you will free yourself from these thoughts and have a more complete life. Try to do other things to divert your thoughts from SCJ; this will help your healing process.
I wish you all the best and live your life happily. You should not think that everything was in vain; now you have a more accurate vision and a more critical sense about religion. May the true God bless you…
PutPrevious6789
I love this. Seven demons, hahaha!
Melda8620
You should already know that for them, from now on, you are a traitor. If you decide to call them, it is very likely that they will not even want to listen to you. The only solution is to perhaps wait for them to call you back (unblock their phone number). When they contact you and offer you a meeting, you can listen to them without really putting your whole heart into it because they are very good at manipulating. This is where you will have to tell everything you have discovered about the organization and ask your questions. Even if your opinions are not accepted, I am sure that at least you will have sowed doubt in them, and one day, even if it is not in the near future, they will end up leaving. The problem is that as long as we are in Shincheonji, we don’t necessarily see the problem because we are manipulated, we are subjected to bombing love, and we are afraid of making the wrong choice when leaving because we must admit that their teachings are very intriguing; hence why many are captive there. That’s why it’s hard to leave. Pray for your friends; after three years, you finally left. GOD WILL ALSO MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND. Courage to you; it will be okay.
No_Structure_5565
I would say don’t reach out. Work on yourself and heal. Chances are any comms from your side will be misunderstood. Sometimes just healing is the best solution for yourself and others.
SCJ-
I still have people that are so important to me who are also stuck inside SCJ. Honestly, there’s nothing we can do. I tried so much for months, only to break myself in the process by re-opening a trauma (SCJ) I never wanted to go back to. As sad as it sounds, only they can realize it themselves. Even if we directly try to plant seeds of doubt into their heads, they’ll still see it as persecution.
Fit-Housing9499
Exactly…
im_built_different_
Since you left, they probably think you are poison now and won’t respond to you if you try to reach out to them.
No_Structure_5565
That 🤏